My husband and I just celebrated our 38th wedding anniversary, and I am revved at what the Lord is doing in my heart and his! There were times (and I’m sure will be more) that the work to keep a relationship thriving seems futile. However, that is a lie Satan would have us believe!
As I look back I am shocked at how much I needed to be humbled in areas of pride and selfishness, but looking forward, I see so much more weeding and pruning. There is an acute awareness that I need a deeper ‘fear of the Lord’ for in it there is the wisdom and understanding needed to finish well.
“Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?” ~Matthew 7: 3
We went to the Cheesecake Factory and had an amazing time of reminiscence and looking both back and ahead at what the Lord has done and is doing with His clay!
He presented me with 24 white roses of unusual beauty. I was very touched.
“Another secret of wedded happiness is for husband and wife to maintain close communion of spirit. They should talk together daily on all matters of common interest. No doubt silence is golden at times, but even silence may be overdone. It was a wise saying of Franklin’s, “As we must account for every idle word, so must we account for every idle silence.” Some husbands and wives have too many idle silences together. It is said that married people can be identified as such on railway trains by their silence as they travel side by side. At home, too, when alone, many a husband and wife sit through meals and pass whole evenings with scarcely a word passing between them. They act as if they were dumb.
When two persons are united in love, and have so many sacred interests in common, why should they not talk together of their affairs, of their home, of the books they are reading, of their spiritual joys and hopes, of their relation to God and to duty? Why should they not speak out from their full, loving hearts the sacred words of affection which so often tremble unspoken on their lips?
On the other hand, there is also a lesson of keeping silence which must be learned. It is better not to speak than to speak angrily, impatiently, bitterly. The Cary sisters had a rule, it is said, that if either of them was in ill humor from any cause, and disposed to be irritable, she went to her own room, and stayed there until the unhappy mood had passed off. This would be a good rule in wedded life.”
I had to be willing to lay down my feminist, independent ways learned and refined in nursing school and the medical community. I pray daily for my husband, and asking the Savior to do a work in each of us. If you knew the worldly entanglements we brought into our marriage, you would have never given us a chance, but with God all things are possible! And, we continue to be a work-in-progress!
The Lord teaches us so much through our marriages. We are so unfaithful to Him and yet when we repent, He gives us more grace! It is so amazing! Thank you, Father, for giving us husbands who are not perfect but who desire to honor You. May we be the wives you desire!
“Being confident of this very thing, that he who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.” ~Philippians 1: 6
A Life Worth Living:
“Highest aim and true endeavor;
Earnest work, with patient might;
Hoping, trusting, singing ever;
Battling bravely for the right;
Loving God, all men forgiving;
Helping weaker feet to stand, –
These will make a life worth living,
Make it noble, make it grand.”
Thanks for reading!