Parents, this is such an important guest post by Heidi St. John.
Something very sad but fascinating is happening to us parents in this postmodern era. We’re being lied to. We’re being told that we aren’t necessary and what’s worse is many are buying into the lie! After all, they say the “village” can do it better. Well, I’ve seen the village. I don’t want it raising my children.
I call it “culture creep.” I live in a rural (well, it used to be rural) part of Washington State. Slowly but surely, urban sprawl has reached my town. I like the convenience that comes with it; for example, we just got Red Robin and Walmart last year… but I don’t like the traffic. I loathe the congested streets and long lines at the grocery store. I miss the “small town” feel that it used to have at Christmas and the 4th of July.
Culture is the same way. Except that from what I can tell, we’re not benefiting one bit. There are no perks. The culture has it’s own agenda.
Look carefully. It’s creeping up into places where parents should not want it to go.
I just learned the Anne Arundel County Public School District in Maryland has instructed teachers and faculty to let transgender students bunk with other students of the gender with which they identify — and not tell parents.
In a video of a June meeting titled “Supporting Transgender Students in School,” Bob Mosier, the district’s chief communications officer, told teachers and administrators how to handle transgender issues at overnight school-related events:
“Many of you might be asking yourselves, “So I’m at an overnight field trip, and I have student who’s biologically a male, identifies as a female and we’ve worked with that student and her family, and that student wants to sleep in the dorms, or whatever sleeping arrangements are, with the females. They don’t want to sleep in a room by themselves; they want to sleep with the rest of the females. So what do we do?”
And the answer is, they sleep with the females. That’s not the easy answer; it’s the right answer. And in some cases, it’s going to cause issues, because … the private information piece doesn’t allow you to share that with parents of all of the other campers. Right? So that’s difficult.”
Another school official had just explained how such issues relating to a student’s personal information, including identity, are “private” and not to be discussed with other parents.
Oh, and pssst! By the way: since the school values the transgender student’s privacy, make sure no one tells the parents.
This is what I’m talking about.
Since when did we stop valuing a parent’s right to know what-in-the-world is happening with their children? How can parents make wise decisions for their children if information is being purposely withheld from them? How can we protect our kids if we don’t know what they’re being taught or exposed to?
And how is this not infringing on the rights of the other children and their family?
Parents today are being told that kids can make their own decisions (starting in elementary school) on everything from birth control to which gender they want to be. What used to be regarded as a parent’s responsibility is often seen as an infringement on the child.
Here in my state, simple tasks like looking at my 13 yr olds’ medical records require effort, persistence and even permission from my 13 year old. If we want to stay in the race and finish it well, we must refuse to be sidelined.
I understand that there are abuse situations that require different measures, but shutting healthy parents out of the lives of their kids is not the solution. Keeping parents from knowing what is happening with their children at school should not be commonplace! It should be a crime.
When the world says “give up” or “it’s not your business,” I challenge you to stand up for the sake of your child. Go ahead and risk being annoying. Be the mom who knows the names of your child’s friends. Be the mom who asks the hard questions and loves unconditionally.
Be the mom who refuses to be sidelined and instead guides her child in the way of Truth through every stage of growing up, including adolescence.
Our kids need their parents. They don’t need the government or the school system to teach them about the big things in life, they need their parents.
And parents? Today’s parents need the wisdom of Solomon. They need the wisdom that comes straight from God Himself.
Heidi St. John is a speaker, author and writes TheBusyMom.com. Heidi speaks frequently all over the country sharing encouragment and biblical truth with women. Heidi and her husband live in Washington State, where they enjoy life with their seven children.
Heidi believes that today’s mothers need a special kind of strength. We need to be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. We dare not rely on human strength for the battles we’re facing right now. Becoming MomStrong: How to Fight with All That’s in You for Your Family and Your Faith has a powerful message just for you – the mom in the midst of it all.
As parents, we have to stand up for our rights. Don’t be bullied.
Thanks for reading!