Beloved, have you grown up with dreams of being a wife and mother someday? Has this vision become so heavy on your mind that it has caused you to become disillusioned and discontented with your life right now?
Jasmine Baucham Holmes puts it beautifully,
“Don’t spend your discontent moments daydreaming about married life. It happens to all of us. We become discontent and harried and look out over that pile of dirty dishes and sigh about the day when you’ll be able to be supper on the table for the man of your dreams- when there’s a guy in your life who needs you, not just to change his diaper or feed him his applesauce.
“But…sowing habits of discontentment has two negative results. First, it takes our sights off of the here and now, and sucks the industry and joy out of today’s service. Second, it becomes a part of our character and demeanor that is sure to hinder us later in life.
“Remember, this is not the only “waiting” season you will ever have to endure should the Lord bless us with husbands some day, we may wait for job transfers, moving opportunities, a biblically functioning church, the blessing of children…in every season of waiting, our response should be to rely on Christ as the true source of our joy.”
So what is the good of worrying about the future? It will not make you strong; it will weaken your courage in the Lord and from doing God’s will. It can never be an escape out of your perplexing life. Worry will spoil what could otherwise be beautiful and useful right now. Don’t let the evil one steal your vitality and joy!
“I will lift up my eyes to the hills— From whence comes my help? My help comes from the Lord, Who made heaven and earth.” ~Psalms 121: 1-2
I pray you will seeking God’s will, nothing more, nothing less. Put away fear. Confidently trust Him and rely on Him for your needs and your happiness. He knows your dreams – every desire and wish – in the same way He know everything about you! Won’t you trust Him? Will you not put your full and devoted confidence in Him?
“The more you get to know the Lord and understand who He is, the more you will reverence Him and fear His displeasure. This is called the fear of the Lord, and it makes you want to obey Him. It’s what draws you closer to God and increases your longing for more of Him. It makes you forget all the things that cause you fear, because they pale in comparison to His awesome power. When you have the fear of the Lord, you fear what your life would be like without Him.”
One thought. Are you praying for your future husband whoever he may be? Has he been in your prayers or just your dreams? Beloved, ask whether you should make a commitment to pray and pray earnestly. He needs your prayers. Pray for his day, pray for his relationship with the Lord, pray for his family, and pray for him to have strength and integrity. You don’t know what he is doing today, but keep him in your prayers!
I don’t mean for you to think about love and dream about the day you can be carried away on a white horse. I simply mean to pray for him – not dreams of you together – just him. You never know what God can accomplish through another person because of your faithful prayers.
“She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.” ~Proverb 31: 12 [emphasis mine]
Besides that, use the energy it takes for discontentment and faithfully pray for your father, mother, siblings and others in your life and in your church. Use this time to be set aside for God and His higher purposes. It is your reasonable sacrifice (Rom. 12:1, Phil. 2: 14-16).
“If you’re single, and you want to know who to marry, run as hard and as fast toward Jesus as you can and if, out of the corner of your eye, you see somebody running in the same direction, take a second look.” ~Pastor Tommy Nelson