Good Company / Against Gossip
‘My idea of good company… is the company of clever, well-informed people, who have a great deal of conversation; that is what I call good company.’
‘You are mistaken,’ said he gently, ‘that is not good company, that is the best.’
~ Jane Austen, Persuasion
Ah… good company, nothing is like it! The biblical term for this pleasure would be “fellowship” and it is something we are all encouraged to participate in. However, there is a danger in certain types of fellowship for it can foster poor conversation and our words which are so easily said, hold a lot of weight in our Creator’s eyes.
“But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.”~ Matthew 12:36-37
Such sobering words! What is a daughter of the King to do? A solution I have personally found helpful is learning “how not to gossip” by learning. Study items of interest to a Proverbs 31 woman (along with the Scriptures, of course). Some examples are the arts of homemaking, gardening, nutrition, health, history, science, midwifery, herbal healing and so forth. The more practical knowledge we acquire, the more thoughtful our conversation will become. We will be offering our companions more than idle talk, our words will have the sweetness of something called *substance*. How refreshing!
Afternoon Tea (or The Gossips) by Sir John Everett Millais
When we discuss interesting topics, we are less likely to speak of gossip in the church, complain about of our current lives (husbands, friends, etc.) and any other subject of slander. When when apply ourselves in this manner, we will truly be “good company” and worthy of the One we claim to represent!
“But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation…” ~ 1 Peter 1:15
Les Noisettes by William Adolphe Bouguereau
Oh ladies, let us learn about things and become informative followers of God! Let our words edify and benefit those around us. Let us enhance the lives we come in contact with. Whatever it is that God has called of interest to you, bloom in that area and let your presence be a blessing to those who surround you!
“She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.” ~ Proverbs 31:26
- Maidens in the Wheatfield by Jennie Brownscombe
- “Dear girls, I plead for sincerity in speech. “Do not yield to the passion for miserable gossip which is so common. Talk about things, not people. Do not malign or backbite your absent friend. What is friendship worth if the moment the person is out of sight the tongue that has professed affection becomes a poisoned fang, and the lips which gave their warm kiss utter the word of ridicule, or sneer, or aspersion? Better be dumb than have the gift of speech to be used in the miserable idle words, insincerities, and backbitings too common in modern society. Surely something better can be found to talk about; if not, utter silence is more heaven-like. A stupid girl who cannot talk at all is better far than a chattering girl who can talk of nothing good or useful.
- Find thou always time to say some earnest word between the idle talk.”
- ~ J.R. Miller (Emphasis in bold is mine.)
What interests has God put into your heart to cultivate for His glory?
JES has been the wife to her “one and only” for 15 years and is a homeschooling mother who embraces her role as “keeper at home”. She still has so much to learn but loves every minute of it!
Her passion to promote Biblical womanhood through godly examples in history is shared at Heroines of the Faith, where the past meets the present. Her desire to give inspiration and ideas about homemaking, homeschooling and homesteading is shared at Strangers and Pilgrims on Earth.
Thanks for reading!