At the news of every child’s birth, what’s the first question we ask about the baby – even before we ask if the baby is healthy? We want to know if it’s a boy or girl!
Knowing the sex of the child is the first way we begin to connect with and understand the new human being. To be human is to be gendered – male or female. And one of the most important jobs of a parent is to help their children develop as healthy boys or girls and into strong, confident men and women.
How do we as Christian parents keep our children from gender confusion and teach them about gender and gender distinction in light of the huge cultural and moral shift that has been taking place?
To answer this question, let’s begin with three premises:
- Science DOES show men’s and women’s brains are hard-wired differently – also, we can look and see that men and women are created differently       
Professor Eric Vilain, a UCLA geneticist specializing in sexual development, recently explained to the Atlantic Monthly that, “There is no evidence of biological influence on transsexualism yet.” If we ever do find some hard-wired biological component for gender identity”, he says, “my hunch is, it’s going to be mild.” 
- God’s plan and purpose for the roles for men and women is under severe attack - misinformation creating gender confusion abounds in media, academia, law and public education
“Being queer means pushing the parameters of sex, sexuality and family; and, in the process, transforming the very fabric of society. We must keep our eyes on the goals of providing true alternatives to marriage and of radically reordering society’s view of reality.” ~Paula Ettelbrick, Law Professor and Homosexual Activist
- Christian parents should teach children biblical truth and celebrate the design God gave to men and women (Deut. 6:4-7)
Can We Help Our Kids Avoid Gender Confusion?
In a word, yes!
If I were parenting young children again, I would do, at least, these 3 things:
1. Parent proactively –
“It is critical that both mother and father work together to provide loving but intentional direction. For boys, the mother should be the one to “push” the child from feminine behavior, and the father should “pull” the boy toward more masculine play and interests. One of the worst things is for dad to “shame” the boy for girl-like behavior. He should always work to welcome his son into the curious world of men. That is how healthy masculine identity happens.” ~Focus On the Family
2. Teach sound theology –
Children’s book God’s Design (from an awesome series) by Sally Michael will give a rich beginning – Inoculate your children from gender confusion by thoroughly and lovingly communicating biblical truths to them at a young age.
Children are encountering a confused and distorted message about gender at younger and younger ages. Discussion of gender and gender roles can no longer be taken for granted or put off until adolescence. Children need to understand, well before their teenage years, how God created men and women to be equal in personhood, dignity, and worth, and yet different regarding the roles He designed for them to have. God’s Word has a great deal to say about this and is more than sufficient to instruct us in this area. A child who is solidly taught the truth is not easily deceived.
This interactive book is perfect as an addition to a homeschooling curriculum for children 7 to 12 years old, but it would be ideal to read aloud to/with a child much younger.
Fun note: our family has the privilege to know and worship with David and Sally Michael. They came to our church from John Piper’s church Bethlehem Baptist in Minneapolis to head Next Generation Ministries. Sally is the author of many of Desiring God’s curricula for women and children and is one of my heroes! You can listen to her talks at Desiring God‘s website.
3. Homeschool –
Philosophies that spawn gender confusion are nothing new to the public [government] schools. The gay agenda has long been infiltrating the public schools through children’s assigned reading and books in the school library.
Now, one of the nation’s largest public school systems is preparing to include gender identity to its classroom curriculum, including lessons on sexual fluidity and spectrum – the idea that there’s no such thing as 100 percent boys or 100 percent girls. Soon others will follow suit if they are not already.
On Friday the 13th, May, 2016, the Obama administration issued an edict to all U.S. schools requiring they open bathrooms according to self-proclaimed gender identity instead of biological sex … or risk lawsuit and loss of federal funds.
We do not have to sit still while gender confusion philosophies are taught to our kids!
Now parents have more reason than ever to consider home-education and protect their kids from gender confusion in all its many facets.
Jesus answered, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? ~Genesis 1: 27
Thanks for reading!