Is your family being fragmented?
If you searching for lifelong intangible or tangible gifts to give to strengthen hearts and minds within the four walls of your home, read on…
More Of the Best Gifts
4.) Working together is a gift!
We have some rock (actually, LOTS) of rocks in our field.
We asked our friends, the parents of 4 boys if their boys wanted a job. They proved to be good workers; with encouragement and some proper incentive, all turned out to be really great help for their ages.
They were game to continue, so we had them back for 4 or 5 hot sessions in the field (during the drought)… to pick up rocks! My husband and daughter worked alongside as encouragement.
It was a gift for them and for us.
My creative husband (in the white hat, of course) came up with their pay which consisted of 90% silver dollars and half-dollars.
Above is a photo of a few of the old pre-1964 coins they received. I loved this idea since, not only was it something they will not soon forget, but it gave them something new to study for their home-education.
Cheerfully working together with your children from their youngest years is a gift in builds sound character and an ordered outlook.
It might take looking for and praying for opportunities beside what you can offer at home. Be creative!
Work ethic is a biblical concept. Here it is talking about the church body, but also applies to a family.
“From Him (Christ) the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.” ~Ephesians 4: 16 (NIV)
5.) Playing Games Together is a gift
Laughter is good medicine and makes for a merry heart! Children (and parents) must learn how to cooperate, and to be good sports, winning or losing.
Two wonderful, engaging games are Dutch Blitz (I personally LOVE Dutch Blitz, because it makes my aging brain synapses grow~ I just feel younger!)~
…and Settlers Of Catan (which is fast becoming another favorite!)~
You have probably heard the old phrase, ‘The family that prays together, stays together!’?
Well, I think it is also true that ‘The family that plays together, stays together.’
Consider designating a family game night, and instead of your kids wanting to leave for entertainment when they get older, they will want their friends to come to your home. You can help them through the difficult and dreaded ‘teen’ years by making your home the place to be!
10 “Must-Have” Family Board Games: A helpful site to get informed on great family games out there!
6.) The Gift of Rough-Housing when your Children are Little to Teach Self-Control:
Our young men still love to play a quick game of touch football with their dad before dinner if the weather permits, but it all started when they would regularly get on the living room floor and ‘wrestle’, usually with him, but sometimes with Aunt Tammy and sometimes with me. Here they are many years ago playing with Dad and their cousin.
It used to be called ‘rough-housing’. There were definite boundaries, and they learned a lot about respect of others and how to control themselves and their emotions. I am so glad my husband helped me to see that it was a valuable thing, and looking back to my youth (in the 50s and 60s) most children rough-housed. It was a normal part of the family life of my friends.
Brett and Kate McKay write, “Roughhousing also teaches children about taking turns and cooperation.
You might not recognize it, but when you horse around with your kids, you’re often taking part in a give-and-take negotiation where the goal is to make sure everyone has fun. Sometimes you’re the chaser and sometimes you’re the chasee; sometimes you’re pinning down your kids and other times they’re pinning you down.
Your kids wouldn’t want to keep playing if they were constantly on the losing side. Everyone has to take turns in order for the fun to continue.”
That is called Social Intelligence, and children need to develop this in order to feel like they fit into their world! I wonder if there would be less children become aggressive or, conversely, reclusive if they had normal healthy rough-house play starting as toddlers.
I wrote on Boys: Raising Them To Be Competent, Hard-Working, Masculine, hopefully capturing some of what I’m trying to say.
7.) The Gift of Reading Great Books together:
When it comes to sharing a book with young children, reading aloud seems the natural thing to do. They can’t read the words on the page, so you do it for them. Once young readers become independent, though, we sometimes forget that they still enjoy – and can also benefit from – listening to you read.
A Few Of My Book Lists:
- 100 + Whole-Hearted Books To Fight Back The Culture
- 25 Beloved Time-Tested Read-Alouds For Young Children
- 75 Classic Books We Shouldn’t Ignore In A Child’s Repertoire
- 60 Titles For The Well-Rounded Children’s Bookshelf
These include age-appropriate picture books, Golden Age stories, children’s fiction, imaginative literature, historical fiction, spiritual works, poetry, books on nature and the arts, and more will start your youngsters on their own lifelong journey of reading from a Christian worldview.
“If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!” ~Matthew 7: 11
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