You may have seen this photo which went viral, but you may not have read the story. I think it such an incredible testimony of why purity is so important, thus I am excited to share this powerful story with you.
Moments before I was to walk down the aisle my soon to be mother in law came in the dressing room where my bridesmaids and I were all gushing with giggles and fluttering about finishing last minute details.
“Sweetheart, your groom has called for you!”.
In a nervous tizzy I said, “What?! I’m not ready! I have to get my shoes and…” She had already taken my hand and led me to a corner, where my groom was waiting. I barely sat down; I was filled with so much anticipation! So much excitement! So many nerves!
“Is he going to like my dress? Does my hair look pretty? Can he see me?!”
Right around the corner sat my soon to be husband, I so was nervous he might see me yet secretly hoping to catch a glimpse of him. In my excited state I was the first to speak,
“Hi sweetie! We’re getting married today!”
“I know baby and I want to pray with you before we do.”
There we sat around the corner hand in hand, and together we bowed our heads. People were rushing about; the wedding coordinator directing people here and there, the photographers snapping photos and the bridal party enjoying each others company. Yet in that moment, in the quietness of our hearts and minds, my husband and I were alone in the presence of our Savior, Jesus Christ.
My husband prayed that God would bless our marriage, that through thick or thin together we would never lose hope in one another. That instead of focusing on each others imperfections we would always rely on Christ’s perfection. That we would wake up every day and chose to love one another not through our own strength but by the power of Christ’s perfect love.
With our hands clenched tightly to one another together we said “Amen”, both with shaky voice and just like that I was whisked away to blot the tears off my face and put on my veil.
After my bridesmaids, mother, mother-in-law and every other girl in the room had finished zipping, curling, tucking and blushing me up I looked in the mirror. There I stood wearing my pure white wedding dress, ready to walk down the aisle to my Prince Charming.
See, he is not only my Prince Charming because of his incredibly handsome looks, or wonderful humor, or the fact that we have so much in common. He is my Prince Charming because he helped me protect the most precious gift that I owned, my purity.
Soon after we had started dating I nervously told my Prince that I was a virgin and planned to be until the night of my wedding; to which he replied he would have it no other way.
Throughout our dating relationship and engagement we constantly fought, what at times felt like a losing battle. We fought temptation with prayer, scripture and accountability. I had friends checking up on me if they knew we were together late at night and he regularly met with other Godly men to pray for strength. At times, especially as the wedding grew closer, we thought we were attempting to do the impossible.
“Why are we doing this?” I would ask in my weakness, and he would remind me, that it’s because God had told us too.
“I can’t do it, I can’t… this is too hard!” he would confess to me and I would pray for his strength.
When I walked down the aisle in my white dress, I looked straight into the eyes of the man that had laid himself down to protect and honor the wife that God had given him.
When his eyes first caught mine he looked into the face of the woman that had waited for him, the woman that would support him and love him for the rest of His life, through good times and bad.
I share all of this story because in that prayer we prayed, which was captured here on camera we asked the Lord to use our wedding to bring Him all of the glory that He rightfully deserved. We had not gotten where we were by our own strength, but by His hand of protection on our relationship.
God has used this photo to inspire hundreds of thousands of people already and for that we are humbled and honored! I wanted to take it a step further and give God praise and thanks for how we arrived at that quiet corner, holding hands and ready to begin our lives together.
How This Couple Won The Sexual Purity Battle
Three very important things made this possible:
First, she courageously told this young man that she valued remaining sexually pure until the night of her wedding, and therefore he wanted to protect it, too. Why is this important? If he had not valued and respected her desire, she would have known that he wasn’t the young man the Lord had for her.
And, second, they made themselves accountable. Like-minded friends and family surrounded them with help by checking up on them, prayers, and a planned strategy. He regularly met with other Godly men to pray for strength.
Third, they fought temptation with prayer and staying in the Word. They desired to bring rightfully deserved glory to the Lord through their testimony.
In an earlier post, I shared that I had been involved in sexual sin before my husband and I were married. How I wish I had been able to hear the biblical mandate early about purity and that I had had a heart and mind transformed to hear it. There is no one to blame but my own willfulness.
I cannot express to you the damage that sexual sin has wrought in my life. What seemed like “everybody does it” when I was 18 has ended up leaving permanent scars. I cannot erase those experiences from my memory. I never would have imagined that sexual sin would cause damage through all these many years.
Even though the message of this story is too late for me, I can speak up through this blog and in my circle of influence and so can you! Let us tell the young women in our lives that “with God nothing is impossible” and encourage them in holy living. I would like to ask that you share it if you feel lead…to the glory of God!
“But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.” ~Ephesians 5: 3
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