Do Your Words Wound or Woo?
Do you injure or attract those you love with the words that comes out of your mouth?
The way my father talked to me when I was as young as five had a huge impact on me, and it has taken me much of my life to heal and restore from the wounds. “You’ll never have any friends looking like that!” “No wonder your classmates don’t like you!” “Why are you so thick-headed?” “Don’t disrespect me. Look at my shoes!” Such confusing messages! I later found out that his father had also verbally abused and belittled him as a young boy. Unbeknownst to me, when I looked into his eyes, he felt threatened! The words he spoke to me were words he had heard as a child. Those harsh words played as though from a recorder in his head, and he repeated what he had heard. Although his words deeply wounded me, the Lord used that knowledge to help me understand my father’s own pain and begin the path to complete and freeing forgiveness. It informed my actions as a parent and was ultimately one of the areas the Lord used to draw me closer to Himself as I struggled to break the generational cycle….