Do you injure or attract those you love with the words that comes out of your mouth?
The way my father talked to me when I was as young as five had a huge impact on me, and it has taken me much of my life to heal and restore from the wounds. “You’ll never have any friends looking like that!” “No wonder your classmates don’t like you!” “Why are you so thick-headed?” “Don’t disrespect me. Look at my shoes!” Such confusing messages! I later found out that his father had also verbally abused and belittled him as a young boy. Unbeknownst to me, when I looked into his eyes, he felt threatened! The words he spoke to me were words he had heard as a child. Those harsh words played as though from a recorder in his head, and he repeated what he had heard. Although his words deeply wounded me, the Lord used that knowledge to help me understand my father’s own pain and begin the path to complete and freeing forgiveness. It informed my actions as a parent and was ultimately one of the areas the Lord used to draw me closer to Himself as I struggled to break the generational cycle….
We will all do our fair share of grieving in this life, some more than others.
It’s been a few years since Robert Rogers lost his whole family in a wall of water on a rainy, dark night. This grieving man had come to play piano to the residents of the nursing home where my mother lives.
Robert alone survived raging, rapidly rising flash flood waters which swept their silver minivan off I-35, trapping some and sweeping others out into the cruel torrent.
Wouldn’t you ask, “Why?”
Why did God allow this to happen?
Stunned and exhausted, but alive, Robert had to deal with intense grieving in the days ahead as he identified and buried his loved ones and returned to an empty home.
“As I stood in my home for the first time since the flood, the essence of my family engulfed me. Reminders of them surrounded me. But there was something else to remind me that they were gone: silence. There were no cheers as I came through the door, no cries in the other room, no whining over who pinched whom, no ‘I love yous,” and no music.”
What is a mom worth? Are you sitting down? The occupations compiled by the Annual Mother’s Day Index and their corresponding median annual salaries may shock you!
To those who struggle with infertility or must work outside of the home, I realize this is a sensitive topic. This is in no way meant to heap more guilt or pain upon you, friend. During these times, we must trust that the Lord has a plan and knows exactly what He’s doing. If you desire to be home, my heart goes out to you, my friend, and I’m specifically praying for you right now.
There are times in everyone’s life that it’s helpful to know if an offender is truly repentant. To know the true state of another’s heart. Is there godly sorrow and true repentance or worldly sorrow and temporary change?
Asking Forgiveness: Love Language Of A Highly Fulfilling Marriage
The need to ask for forgiveness is one of the most ubiquitous of human experiences.
Ruth Bell Graham was right when she said, “A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” Indeed, it’s essential if you are going to enjoy a truly fulfilling marriage. There’s no other relationship I know where the need to forgive presents itself more often.