Media and marketing profoundly influences the lies we tell ourselves. In movies, television, and in advertisements, we are fed information about who we should be.
(I do like to wear makeup and dress attractively. This post is not about wearing or not wearing makeup. It is about valuing yourself rightly and being at peace with who you are on the inside.)
For most woman living in mainstream American culture, attaining the perfect appearance has become core to our value. It’s essential that we look eternally 20 years old with big eyes, perfect skin, bouncy well-managed hair, perfectly white teeth, and a very slim yet decidedly feminine figure. If not this ideal, we feel unattractive, and there is nothing we can do to make up for it. No matter how hard we try, we cannot be smart enough, clever enough, nice enough to compensate for our imperfect looks—we will never be as valuable as the “beautiful woman” sitting next to us.