My heart has been overflowing with thoughts in the direction of forming good habits in our children – painful thoughts since so many families seem on the brink of despair. But there is a solution!
“The mother who takes pains to endow her children with good habits secures for herself smooth and easy days; while she who lets their habits take care of themselves has a weary life of endless friction with the children.” ~ Charlotte Mason, Laying Down the Rails: A Charlotte Mason Habits Handbook
Samuel Adams by Copley Click
Please vote. Take your sons and daughters with you. Explain to them the very awesome privilege we have of helping to choose our own leaders.
“Let each citizen remember at the moment he is offering his vote that he is not making a present or a compliment to please an individual – or at least that he ought not so to do; but that he is executing one of the most solemn trusts in human society for which he is accountable to God and his country.” ~Samuel Adams, Essay in the Boston Gazette, April 16, 1781
How do we mothers balance the masculine, tougher side of our boys and yet encourage them to grow into the well-rounded men God designed them to be? There is no one way I know, but a multiplicity of ways (or enrichments, if you will) that work together to accomplish this happy blending of manliness and kindness, steel and velvet.
And a caveat: I am not talking about the wide range of God-given physical features or strength here. A man doesn’t need to be ruggedly built or look a certain way to be a wise, capable leader. And if there is a disability, the work becomes that of developing the mind and the inner spirit of the man. Hard work doesn’t always have to be physical.
Jesse Wilcox Smith, ABCs
“Out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks.” ~Matthew 12:34
Parents can use this principle to gain some understanding and insight into a child’s heart. Listening becomes all important.
Nature study enrichment can begin to develop the care-taking dimension of a boy’s heart. Men are designed to be care-takers of their family and to take dominion over what God has placed in their care while here on earth. Boys need to be prepared for this important task. Nature study seems to balance their rough and tumble sides. They learn how to be gentle with what is placed in their care.
My friend Ingrid is the mother of four boys. I have asked her to share with us some of the creative ways in which she teaches her very active young men and how she seeks to strike a good balance between being ‘all boy’ and being ‘gentle men’.