Sturdy womanhood is on the decline.
Just a few days ago, I was in the grocery store carrying a 5 pound bag of flour. A little boy wandered past me and patted his mother on her arm.
“Mommy, do ladies have muscles?” She smiled as she looked down at her son. “Ladies do actually have muscles, just not as big and strong as men’s muscles.” Despite his mother’s answer, the little boy confidently concluded, “I’m quite sure that ladies have no muscles at all.” I chuckled as I finished my purchase, but it set me to thinking.
[Written by my daughter Rebecca, she will be joining me here occasionally with topics for women and young mothers.]
In today’s culture we have seen the defeminization of women in every area of womanhood. The Bible makes it clear that men and women are equal, although we as women are under the authority of our husbands, and we have separate roles; yet our culture has become expert at blurring that distinction. And this blurriness has led to an expression of femininity which often looks very masculine.
Believing women understand that the culture has it all wrong. But in our sincere desire to be feminine and biblical, we may fall into the trap of becoming lazy, complaining, and complacent women – even to the point of believing that fragility might be properly equated with femininity.
Hmm . . . sounds like a woman with no muscles at all.
But is that really what the Bible calls us to be?
My thoughts sift through the stories of Deborah, Abigail, Esther, Ruth, and even Mary.
What if we too are mistaken in how we view true womanhood?
My mind immediately flew to the oft quoted passage of Proverbs 31. I knew there I would find a proper view of virtuous womanhood.
As I read and began to dig deeper in my study, I found some rather astounding facts.
Non-Wimpy Womanhood
Sandra Cobble (www.oldpaths.com) describes the word virtuous as a translation of the Hebrew word, chavil. This word was used to denote strength, power, or might and could be used to describe the strength of God, the physical strength of man, or even the strength of a plant. Further, it was translated as both valor and army.
Specifically, Sandra notes that when the word virtuous was used of a woman, it expresses that she had the attributes of her male counterpart, indicating that she had not only physical strength and moral purity but also strength of character.
Consequently, the virtuous woman is a strong woman in all facets of her life.
(PREPARING THE MEAL ~ DANIEL RIDGWAY KNIGHT)
So, it began to dawn upon me that the weak and wimpy form of womanhood we see today is also a part of the defeminization of women. God never calls us to be delicate and helpless.
He has gifted each of us with talents and gifts equal to men, and He expects us to use them to support our husbands, strengthen and nurture our families, and to further the kingdom. He calls us to be women with muscles!
(THE FISHERMAN’S DAUGHTER)
What would it look like if women were hardy workers, patient sufferers, and faithful helpmeets and mothers, doing much but expecting little in return? What about women who not only managed the domestic duties of a household but joined their husbands in manual labor?
What about women who had great fortitude that settled the wild frontier and killed the invading beast when her husband was away? What about women who made the commitment to be hard workers, strong in fortitude and labor, ever vigilant in the duties of home and family?
What about women who are victorious warriors in prayer, minister to those who are in need, both spiritually and physically, and who are willing to get their hands dirty to love others?
(THE WASHERWOMEN)
Let’s be sturdy women, content in the present and brave to the future.
Let’s be women with muscles!
(CUTTING THE WEEDS ~ DANIEL RIDGWAY KNIGHT)
(This post was written by my daughter in November, 2011)
PS In our society’s effort to ensure comfort and equality for everyone, we actually prevent the blessings of trials from ever occurring.
Much faith, character, and fruit come from these trials. The sting of death is even being minimized, which has the effect of minimizing the need for a savior that overcame death.
“She girds herself with strength, and strengthens her arms.” ~Proverbs 31:17
Aaron Dickson
Godbless you sister. Amazing site. All glory and honour to Almighty GOD.
Joanne
I love your website and the beautiful graphics. I am currently working on starting a blog and I was wondering where you get your graphics from.
I am currently reading your post on feminine dressing. It is so refreshing to see women embracing modesty. Thanks for your beautiful website!
Jacqueline
Joanne,
Oh…the name ‘A Ready Scribe’ is lovely~ like a ready writer’!
I had the young son of a friend at church do the website for me. It took 3 days and was way more involved than I thought it would be 🙂 I will likely have it done over in June or July and change the look, but have no idea how to do it!! Ha ha! Pretty sad, huh?! I am occasionally seeing others doing their own, so it must not be something I have to pay to have done if I can just learn the ropes. If you ever come across a great and less expensive source, I’d love it if you shared it with me 🙂 A blessing and a hug!
Marla Medina
I so much appreciated this post and the beautiful art that accompanied it. Thank you.
JES
I love this! This is exactly my sentiment!
Annalyn
The original Hebrew for meet means that Eve was adequate for, or equal to, Adam. She wasn’t his servant or his subordinate. And the Hebrew for help in “help meet” is ezer, a term meaning that Eve drew on heavenly powers when she supplied their marriage with the spiritual instincts uniquely available to women as a gender gift.
Just as Adam and Eve were equals in the task given them by Father to head up the family of mankind, we are expected to be equal partners with our husbands. Men and women are created to be different- we have different needs. But we also have different purposes, gifts, talents, and methods…. which are all needed.
A happy marriage is based on an equal yoking- where two people of equal wisdom, *strength*, and virtue work in tandem to obtain all that Father has to offer them.
Mrs. Smith
Fantastic post! So full of wisdom! It was a blessing to read it this morning and I plan for my daughters to read it also. Loved the artwork too!
Sue
Yes!!!!
Phyllis Sather
Great article. Thanks for posting it. I tend to forget all the ways the world has compromised what real women look like.
Janet
The thought of carrying a baby for nine months and then going through the labor of delivery makes most men tremble weak with fear. Then to see her turn around and do it all over again makes most men stand in awe.
Women are strong in different ways then men and anyone that contends that just isn’t observant.
A woman’s body is built and created that way just like a man’s body is built and created to withstand rigors of external labor. They compliment one another.
Terrie
Perfectly said!
Sandra
Encouraging post, thank you.
Amber
Oh, thank you, thank you, thank you for this great post! It can often be confusing when women (particularly young women) are trying to sort out all of the confusing aspects of feminism vs. Biblical womanhood. I, for one, enjoy working outside doing things that some women would think I’m crazy to do (i.e. – butchering chickens, planting large gardens, running the tractor, etc., etc.). I know that when I am doing these things, I am learning something about self-sufficiency AND I am helping to take the load off of my husband which then frees him up to have more time to do other things like spend time with the kids (he works away from the home all day so time with the children is a precious commodity to him.) I LOVED this post!
Janet R.
The thought of carrying a baby for nine months and then going through the labor of delivery makes most men tremble weak with fear. Then to see her turn around and do it all over again makes most men stand in awe.
Women are strong in different ways then men and anyone that contends that just isn’t observant.
A woman’s body is built and created that way just like a man’s body is built and created to withstand rigors of external labor. They compliment one another.
Abba12
Ever made butter by hand? Kneaded bread by hand? Boiled and then had to beat fudge syrup? I think women’s arm muscles, way back, were stronger than many men’s today!
Anna @ Feminine Adventures
Such a wonderful post!
The rampant feminism of the 20th century was sort of a pendulum swing from the 19th century view of women as dainty weaklings. As you so beautifully showed, both views are unscriptural.
Thanks for this beautiful inspiration to be strong and noble women of God!
Sarah
One of the more biblically accurate posts I have seen about our role as women thus far! Thank you. The pictures are great too, usually we see pictures of women sitting around staring off into the distance.
Jenifer Harrod
This was a great post! The artwork was just devine! Come visit me on the web.
Doug
As a man reading this, it makes me sad… sad to see just how correct you are and how society today, especially here in America has actually destroyed what a woman should be. They are bombarded with false images of super skinny models wearing little clothing. They are told to be equal in the workplace with men or they aren’t really living correctly. The emphasis on home and family is destroyed because women are told to seek careers instead of raise a family, even when they have children to raise. What women may not understand about all of this is that it actually breeds men to dishonor women and look down upon them. Men today have less respect for women and I think a large part is due to our naturally competitiveness. When women are seeking the same position in the company as men, it creates discontent. Of course there are a lot of reasons, casual sex being pushed as no big deal instead of a Godly role in marriage, clothing that leaves nothing to reveal, etc etc.
I am spreading this article around. Praying that it will wake women up to the fact that God wants you to serve your husband and family first.
Karen
Great post! It was this verse from Proverbs 31 that encouraged me to exercise my arms more, work harder in and around my home and to launch my small business! Not that I need strong arms for my business, but the Proverbs 31 woman was wise, kind and productive..what a wonderful example for us. As always, your posts are such an encouragement!
Marci Ferrell
What a beautiful and well written post about what a true biblical woman is – thank you Jacque for sharing this wisdom from your daughter. Thankful she had a beautiful mother who loves the Lord to pass it on down to her.
Colleen G.
Thank you for encouraging those of us whose husbands would rather have us working along side them outside and doing farm chores instead of staying inside working on our embroidery. I love being a woman but I’m just not victorian era frilly. I had to be able to do quite a lot of the wood hauling for part of one winter as my husband’s back went out. A lady friend of mine loves splitting wood for a workout. Being a godly woman doesn’t always look like fancy dresses and tea parties. Sometimes it looks like flannel and denim because that’s how our husbands want to enjoy our company stacking wood and raking the yard.
Heather Anderson
A beautiful picture of true womanhood. I am reading the Little House series to my 5 yr. old daughter for the first time (probably my tenth). Caroline is a picture of a strong but feminine woman; submitted to her husband yet oh, so capable.
Nicole
Love it Jacqueline, thank you for sharing this! I have never thought of these things, and there are lots of things here I can surely improve upon. Thank you for linking up at Workin’ It Mondays and blessing me with your words!
~Nicole
Working Kansas Homemaker
Phallin
I loved reading this, it is so true! I agree with you Heather Anderson…Caroline was amazing!
Mya Martinez
Profound and well said! Thank you.
What Joy Is Mine
Jacqueline….what a fabulous post…so full of encouragement. I’m always blessed by what you post.
Thank you for sharing it at WJIM.
Sharon
This is so true! Unfortunately, our culture has such strong pulls on opposite ends of what a woman should be. This shows all the more that we should live in a way that pleases God rather than pleasing the culture. We can believe that we are who God says we are and not be concerned with the identity the world would like us to have.
Darby Dugger
What a beautiful post filled with truth and inspiration! Thank you!
Shanna
I loved this post. I’ve frequently made similar comments; that the idea of the “delicate woman” (while we ARE to be refined and lady-like) is mostly of 19th century middle and upper-middle-class rather than Biblical origins, and that to be the “lady” presented in many period paintings required the work of a staff of servants, many women themselves, who were underpaid and overworked.
For many 19th and early 20th century women, the ideal of being delicate and not involved in hard and dirty work was just that, an ideal. In other cases it was a well-concealed falsehood, a myth created to preserve the family’s social status. In some cases, 19th century women even went to great lengths to disguise that fact that they actually worked very hard. They were the tireless “smooth-haired wives” that Catherine Clinton writes about in Gone With the Wind- the women who on the outside could appear feminine, but on the inside were made of steel. And certainly there were women of equal merit in the North.
I applaud the fact that Christian women are turning their backs on the masculine “feminist” type of women, but if we insinuate to our daughters that the ultimate “Christian Lady” sits around in a white dress drinking tea out of a china cup or stitching daintily in a snow-white apron, how disappointed and incompetent will they be when they encounter the realities of real life? They may even reject the realities of work as a mother and wife because many of these tasks do not meet their idea of being a “ladylike.”
We have to embrace the Biblical role-model of womanhood. Certainly the Virgin Mary, Elizabeth, Sarah, and many of the other women of the Bible did not sit around in delicate idleness, but did the normal, mundane, often dirty jobs expected of a wife and mother of their day (or helping their maids do these tasks.)
I really applaud Jacqueline for writing this article.
Heather
Thank-you Jacqueline’s daughter! Excellent read, with lovely paintings!
I posted to my F.B.
H.R.
Kate
EXCELLENT post!! And a great exhortation for us to be women of strength…I love, love, love those pictures!!! Thanks for linking this up.
Niki at For Journey's Sake
This is beautiful! Thank you for your words of wisdom!
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Beautiful post. Your daughter is very wise.
Anna
Thank you! The struggle to find the word “sturdy” as it refers to a hardworking woman has finally ended! I coach gymnastics, and as a former athlete myself, I always feel it imperative to impart upon the girls I teach, from 6-18 years old, the hardiness and strength they’re gaining from the obstacles, challenges, and slow fights of living a good and Godly life. As the word “fierce” surged in popularity a few years ago, I heard it championed among my friends and younger girls as an anthem of independence–ironically, this “fierceness” they advocated was one of not needing a man to please them. I always thought it could have meant something a little more wholesome, and a whole lot more interesting! Your word sturdy helps me. How great to teach young girls–and women of all ages alike–that strength is inherent in our beings! Both physical and spiritual strength, and that being a strong, sturdy helper and mate is a gift to the men and families in our lives. We were built strong, benefit from building strength, and help others become strong by building them up. Femininity is in our bones, built right in next to strength. God knew what he was doing when He made it possible to be both, and at the same time! Thank you for the word “sturdy” and the image that is conjured up of who we should each become by that word. God bless!
Anna
Jacqueline
You are welcome, Anna 🙂 I love your words, “Femininity is in our bones, built right in next to strength. God knew what he was doing when He made it possible to be both, and at the same time!” It is beautiful to be a woman and even more so to be a woman of God!
I’m so glad it was helpful, and I will tell my daughter who actually wrote it 🙂
Blessings in Jesus!
Lady Virtue
I know this is an older post, but still, it’s excellent! Not sure how I missed it.
Indeed, God does endow us women with strength–for our feminine tasks and responsibilities. He enables us to undergo the custom of women, be with child for 40 weeks and then be delivered of that child (sometimes through hard travail), he gives us wisdom to rear our children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord under the headship of our husbands, and so on. He gives us the ability to make a soft, cozy home for our husbands to come home to after a long day of labor.
There’s still housework to be done, of course, but a lot of things are automated now, in this post-industrial revolution era. I think that’s a large part of why sturdy womanhood has declined, along with feminism.
Erin
I know this is an older post, but I just found it on Pinterest and have to say thank you!!
I just read it to my daughter while she was busy with a task and will show it to her sister when she gets home from her part time job. Life is work; often hard work. We can work hard and still be feminine.
Emily
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Jacqueline
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Blessings,
Jacque
Amy Moyer
Hello Jackie,
My name is Amy Moyer, I have been following your blog for several years now and I just wanted to share how much I appreciate you! Your testimony, research and perspective are invaluable to this crunchy, Christian mama! 🙂
I have been wanting to write to you for a while, since I read you went to IU. I live in Bloomington, IN with my husband and four children. God has done amazing things in my life and marriage. He is so faithful to us!!
I wanted to share some encouraging music, fitting for the uncertain times we are in. My husband and some friends from our church, all former students of IU’s Jacob’s School of Music, have been setting the Psalms to singable music for the past 6 years. They are called My Soul Among Lions (inspired by Psalm 57:4), and they have 4 albums with a wide range of styles. Most of it is available on youtube. Their music has been a tremendous encouragement and strength for our faith as our country continues to celebrate more and more wickedness. We had no idea when they started the project how God would use it, and how much we’d need it! 🙂
I pray it is an enjoyable encouragement to you!
LIVING ROOM SESSIONS // The Lord Is My Shepherd (Psalm 23)
LIVING ROOM SESSIONS // The Lord Is My Shepherd (Psalm 23)
By My Soul Among Lions
https://mysoulamonglions.com
My Soul Among Lions // Let Every Valley [EXTRAS SERIES]
My Soul Among Lions // Let Every Valley [EXTRAS SERIES]
By My Soul Among Lions
I hope these links work for you.
Thank you again for your work! If you ever find yourself in the Bloomington area, I would be honored to meet you!
With love in Christ,
Amy Moyer
ceecee
I have done physical labor my mother, MIL, nor many other women do. My mom was very strong, yet when she married she never exercised or worked doing physical labor. Same with my MIL. I am 66 and small, and still doing hard physical labor. Most people around here have lots of money and have yard workers to do their yards, we do not. Many also have house cleaners, we do not. The reason I do it is to help my husband, so he doesn’t have to do it all. We have a 1/2 acre lot and have serious issues with a huge weed tree from which more and more weed trees spring up all over the yard. Not only that, but with no grass we have so many weeds, plus, oak and bamboo, walnut, fruit trees, etc. so the work never ends. I use a heavy weed whacker, clippers, and cut down and cut up. I plant, I pull weeds, dig weeds, and put them in cans and pull them up the sloped yard. This is not the only physical labor I do. I do all the interior and most of the exterior painting, some wall repairs, wash and trim the large standard poodle, do all the house cleaning, all the rug cleaning, all the cooking from scratch, kitchen clean up, and also make a full meal for our families two times a week, babysit. I wash our floors on my hands and knees. I detail our cars inside. I do clean up for my husband when he does projects. I helped my husband move all our furniture every time we moved-every piece of furniture except for the refrigerator a few times. I home schooled my children. We had horses which I took an active role in caring for. I also have allergies to all this, but it must be done, so I just do it. We also do hard walking up high hills every day which is a real workout. We also play with our gkids- physically play fight, play hide and seek and take part in many other activities with them, cooking , crafts, Sure, it is hard to hide in a closet or play and get whacked with rubbery swords, pushed and shoved, chase or be chased, but we go into their world. They will look back at us when we are gone and laugh at how crazy it all was. I have taken care of our daughter 24/7 before she passed, first being in the hospital with her every second for 17 months, and then doing full time nursing in home for her, by myself. I have also done that for my husband for years, through mouths of illness and being in the hospital for months at a time with little or no sleep, sometimes even sleeping on cold hospital floors in ERs and ICU, or in a hard wooden chair. I won’t say any of this has been easy for my daughter or husband, it has been the worst part of my life to see them go through these things. I have gone with no or little sleep for days at a time, and the same for food. My husband does so much, too: our car repairs, insurance and taxes, big home repairs, many other things, he doesn’t just sit all day. He has has his own business which has not been doing well lately and needs to keep up with all the continuing ed classes every year, etc. But we work hard together, as we work side by side and where ever we need to. And yes, I like to dress nice, wear makeup and would love to travel some. I don’t have time for much time for myself with all we do, but this is our life and I am very happy he is still with me.
Jacqueline
CeeCee, I am impressed with all you do! Thank you for describing your life! I wish I could find a helper here like you as it seems all I do now is work on the computer!
Blessings,
Jacque