Realizing that God gave your spouse to you as a gift to cherish and love, are you willing to work hard at your marriage? Are you willing to sacrifice and trust in the Lord for help?
We all start out young, and in some ways, thoughtless about the hard work it will take to go the distance. Usually, in the beginning, we don’t give much thought to finishing well. Whether we like it or not, we set the standard for the next generations of offspring as to what is important in life.
Is it my selfish desires that I wish to further or rather to leave a legacy of grace and faith in the Lord to my children?
One of my role models for marriage is Billy and Ruth Graham. They started out young and had many struggles, but they persevered. We need models like that. Our children need models like that!
A young couple:
And some years before Ruth went to the Lord:
Is it just me – or do most of us gals say, ‘I want what they have?’ If so, we need to fight for our men and our marriages with kindness and a quiet and gentle spirit as described in 1 Peter 3: 1-5~
“Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment… Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful.”
We tend to want perfection out of our spouse, and we want it now! But with persistence and patience, we win the day in the end. Think of God’s patience with you as you grow and mature as a follower of Christ. Ask God for help in being the best wife that you can be.
Keep your focus on growing and overcoming and not constantly on every fault (I speak to myself here). Build your husband up daily, and you will together become all that God has you to be.
Not all spouses are easy, but God is mighty. Stay faithful to Him and to your spouse. The rewards are better than you can imagine.
Contentment, peace, joy, no regrets!
~Two Christians that are bound together in Christ are stronger than the individuals themselves. “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” ~Ecclesiastes 4:12
~We have lost a lot of our will to work hard at something. We have become hot-house plants. “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” ~Colossians 3: 23-24
Key Marriage Scriptures
God Created Marriage
“And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, he made into a woman, and brought her to the man.” Genesis 2:22
A Husband is to Love his Wife
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” Ephesians 5:25
A Husband is to Cling to His Wife
“Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will cling to his wife: and they will be one flesh.” Genesis 2:24
A Wife is to Submit to Her Husband
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22
BOTH Husband and Wife Submit to ONE ANOTHER
“Submit to ONE ANOTHER our of reverence for Christ.” Ephesians 5:21
God Hates Divorce
“For the LORD, the God of Israel, says he hates putting away (divorce): for one covers violence with his garment, says the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.” Malachi 2:16
God Created Sex
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” Genesis 1:17
God Wants Marriages to Produce Godly Children
“And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And why one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.” Malachi 2:15
Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness in the Home
“And be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake has forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:32
Love is Awesome
“Love suffers long, and is kind; love does not envy; love does not promote itself, is not puffed up, does not behave badly, seeks not her own, is not easily provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Marriage is a Covenant – so God is Part of Every Marriage
“… the LORD hath been witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously: yet is she your companion, and the wife of your covenant.” Malachi 2:14
God Joins the Couple Together so their Sexual Intimacy is not Sinful
“What therefore God has joined together, do not let man put asunder (separate).” Mark 10:9
“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Hebrews 13:4
(Key Marriage Scriptures excerpted from Family Horizons~ Blessing Families)